It’s quite the age-old story. You’re a happy and vibrant young woman with a healthy self-image. You then have a baby or two – or more. You might also hit 30 before or after the babies; it doesn’t really matter. The point is that your metabolism slows down along the way.
In any case, you find yourself with significantly less time, less money, and less energy to look after yourself. Suddenly, it’s 10 years later. You’re overweight. You might have some health issues. You haven’t indulged yourself in anything under than food – not hobbies, not new things, not even sleep.
You wonder where the old you went. It’s like you’re left with nothing more than a shell of your former self – a rather dilapidated shell at that. You might also be a bit depressed. Or a lot.
Understanding the Direness of It All
It’s a cliché, but it’s an alarming cliché. On this road called motherhood, there’s an ever-sinking rut that many women get stuck in. You owe it to yourself and your family to scramble your way out of it.
You usually fall headlong into this pit because in making your children and your other duties to your family the priority, you also manage to bury your needs in the nether regions of your to-do list. These are the items you usually never get around to accomplishing.
Later on, you bow your head in shameful defeat and simply stop trying. You’re just not the kind of person who takes care of herself anymore. That’s your new reality.
Whether you’ve reached this point or are still barreling your way there, you need to pause and take stock of the situation. You need a shift in mindset.
For starters, giving up shouldn’t be an option. Here are some of the most important reasons why.
- You only get one chance at life. You need to make the choice to cherish it and enjoy it. Looking after yourself is definitely an integral part of this endeavor.
- The happy and healthy version of yourself is a better mother to your precious children. Remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup. You are able to do more for your children when your person is filled with good things such as energy, joy, peace, etc.
- Whether you like it or not, you are your children’s example. If you want them to love themselves and take care of their health, you have to model it.
Moving Past the Mom Rut
The will is there, but you might not know how to go about kicking off your self-love and self-care mindset. Here are some ideas to get you started.
1. Get moving.
You have to make time for physical fitness. You can start with just five minutes here and there. You can simply increase the length as you go. The important thing is to get some exercise done every day.
Instead of plopping yourself in the couch and watching TV when you find some free time, choose to get physical instead. You can dance, go for a walk, or play with your kids. You’ll find that you’ll be more energized to push on with the next batch of tasks waiting for you.
2. Eat healthy.
But food is the only perk you get anymore! You look forward to these special treats you reward yourself with throughout the exhausting day. If you mean to treat yourself to various health issues, this is definitely the way to go.
A better diet will help your body perform at its best as well as lower your risk of different scary diseases. To cover all of your nutritional requirements, it is also recommended that you supplement with multivitamins for women’s health.
3. Sleep well.
Being sleep-deprived may seem like the way of motherhood, but sleep is very important, especially for you who spends too much of herself all day long. Your body needs to properly restore itself so that you can rise to the challenges of the next day.
Also, studies indicate that people who consistently get less than six hours of sleep are more prone to weight gain as well as depression, heart disease, and diabetes, so there’s that to consider too.
4. Practice mindfulness.
It’s recommended that you make this part of your morning routine. Meditation is a great way to manage your stress and stay positive. This has a beneficial effect on your mental and emotional well-being, and as such, your physical health as well.
To incorporate exercise with mindfulness, consider practicing yoga, Pilates, or tai chi.
It’s important to make time for family and friends. Your motherhood journey is also much easier when you’re not feeling alone and lonely. Even introverted moms enjoy some socialization time, especially if it also means a break from routine.
With your circle of friends and family, you also establish a support system, which every mother really needs.
6. Pursue your interests.
You need an outlet, so find the time to do something that you really enjoy, excluding eating.
Start hobbies. These could be sporty, creative, educational, etc. The important thing is that you get to balance all the hard work with some play or all that time you spend catering to your family with time indulging yourself.
Getting Serious about Healthcare
Besides all these, another important step is putting your own wellness checks on the calendar. You make sure your kids get their physical, medical, and dental consultations regularly. You also deserve the same.
Remember, one of the best things you can do for your children is to stay healthy and happy, so make yourself a priority again. Love yourself and follow your dreams.
It’s been done. You can do it too. You can be another story of determination to inspire other mothers out there.